Books

This was big when it was published in 2017. Many people outright told me to buy this book. I hate pushy people but I did it anyway. Good stuff.   Buy it here

This is one wise-ass woman. She gets to the heart of the issue with honesty and insight. Plus she said fuck a lot too. This is more for inspirational quotes that kick ass but some totally apply to the grieving process.  Buy it here... 

This is another wise-ass woman whose wisdom was also born of pain. A must-read for all full fledged feminists and wannabes.  Also not about grief, per se as much as it is about reclaiming and rebuilding your life. Some powerful stuff too.       Buy it here... 

Terri is an expert on death, dying, and grief after going back to school and studying it following her son's death at 16. I had the opportunity to talk with her by phone. She's pretty awesome. Check out her website. 

Listen to Terri here  speak on NPR on a Life Kit episode.  This here audio is short but powerfully informative about how to work through grief and the gift grief holds for us...if we can go there.

I went to this website a lot because the author calls it grief support that doesn't suck. 

Another website I went to frequently because of the great content. She deals with all forms of grief, including suicide, in an easy to read format. 

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I have a hard-on for Glennon Doyle after hearing her on the Arm Chair Expert with Dax Sheppard podcast, and then reading her book, Untamed. These here quotes are from the book that I copied from a website that I can't locate anymore. Prepare yourself for greatness and start reading.  

Grief is a lonely basement guest room

I see your fear, and it's big. I also see your courage, and it's bigger. We can do hard things.

This life is mine alone. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they've never been.

You're not doing life wrong; you're doing it right. If there's any secret you're missing, it's that doing it right is just really hard. Feeling all your feelings is hard, but that's what they're for. Feelings are for feeling. All of them. Even the hard ones. The secret is that you're doing it right, and that doing it right hurts sometimes.

I can feel everything and survive. What I thought would kill me, didn't. Every time I said to myself: I can't take this anymore — I was wrong. The truth was that I could and did take it all — and I kept surviving. Surviving again and again made me less afraid of myself, of other people, of life. I learned that I'd never be free from pain but I could be free from the fear of pain, and that was enough.

If you are uncomfortable — in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused — you don't have a problem, you have a life. Being human is not hard because you're doing it wrong, it's hard because you're doing it right. You will never change the fact that being human is hard, so you must change your idea that it was ever supposed to be easy.

The most revolutionary thing a woman can do: the next right thing, one thing at a time, without asking permission or offering explanation.

The braver I am, the luckier I get. 

There he goes

One of God's own prototypes 

Some kind of high power mutant

Never, ever intended for mass production 

Too weird to live 

Too rare to die - HST

If necessity is the mother of invention, then desperation is the father of denial.

Grief is tremendous, but love is bigger. You are grieving because you loved truly. The beauty in that is greater than the bitterness of death. Allowing this into your consciousness will not keep you from suffering , but it will help you survive the next day.  

You can't cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. It's just there, and you have to survive it.  You have to endure it. You have to live through it and love it and move on and be better for it. 

Accept that their actions hurt you deeply.
Accept that this experience taught you something you didn't want to know.
Accept that sorrow and strife are part of even a joyful life.
Accept it's going to take a long time for you to get the monster out of your chest.
Accept that someday what pains you now will surely pain you less. 

Hello, Fear. Thank you for being here. You're my indication that I'm doing what I need to do. 

Oh! The humanity!!

Grief is a Motherfucker!!!!

I don't trust anyone who won't say "fuck" indiscriminately in public.